(Finally, I got the time to write the story...)
The contraction started about a week before the birth, - on my 38th week, and it always happened on midnight. And every time, I'll call my hubby and we started to debate whether he should come or not. But when the pain become unbearable for the 2nd time that week, we decided that he should.
So on Thursday (4 Feb 10), my hubby took emergency leave and came to Kuching on the first flight that morning. But, nothing happened on that day or the day after, and again we were in dilemma - whether he should go back to JB or stay until my due date. I wanted him to stay, but then I have another 2 weeks to go and that means he have to take a very long leave.
The main reason for the dilemma: it was near Chinese New Year holiday, and there's no flight out from JB to Kuching from 10th-13th Feb. So, if I'm in labor within those dates, he'll miss the birth of our baby. But then, at the end, we decided for him to back to JB on Sunday (7 Feb) and we're just hoping that baby can wait for Ayah to come again on the 14th.
Then on early Saturday morning (6th Feb), the contraction started again. Hubby wanted me to the hospital, but I refuse - it's not the time yet...
But in the afternoon, I noticed there were bloody show and hubby insisted that I go to the hospital. After the check-up, I was already dilating 2cm, but the doctor concerned that time was my BP- it was quite high. So I was send to the ward, but the contraction stopped. I asked my hubby to go home because I knew Iman will be looking for him - and I don't want Iman to stay at the hospital.
And on midnight, the contraction started again. At 1.30++am, it became very painful, but still only 3cm. So the nurses refused to send me to the labor room, they said, not yet. Called my hubby, he asked if he should come, but I told him to come tomorrow morning. Then at 2++am, the contraction became stronger and I noticed there's blood on my bed. I asked to be checked again. And to my surprise (and the nurses too..), I was fully dilated!!
Immediately, they send me to the labor room, which was one floor below. They were running while pushing the bed and told me not to push and keep breathing (easy for them to say...!). As I reached the labor ward, the doctor told me to wait first, while they prepared the room (again... easy for them to say!!). They changed my cloth (sempat lagi tu... dan sakit sangat nih!!). And as the doctor said "Okey, now you can p...", I was already pushing!!
First push.. "Try again.."
Second push, my water broke..
Third push.. "Another try..."
Fourth push... and little Izz was born at 2.36am, 7th February 2010 (and she was little, only 2.3kg).
All of this happened in less than 30 minute.. and no episiotomy needed!
The sad part was, hubby was not there to witness it.
He didn't even know I was in labor. They send me to the labor room in a hurry, I did not have the chance to call him!
Then, after everything was settled, the doctor began to deliver the placenta. But after 15 minutes, I heard him said to the midwife (whose busy writing all the form etc...), " I think her placenta is still in there. The umbilical cord snapped..."
I did not think it was serious. Not until after himself, the midwife and the supervising OB/GYN failed to take the placenta out, and when I heard they decided to bring me to the OT.
So in less than an hour, I was already in the OT. The doctor came to inform me about the procedure- I'll be given anesthetic in my spine to numb the lower part of my body. Then they'll try to pull the placenta out - or in other word, they'll put their hand in my uterus & korek placenta (uri) tu keluar- I don't even want to think about it!!
I have what they call 'Primary post partum haemorrage' (meaning excessive bleeding within 24 hours post delivery - or tumpah darah in Malay). The cause was 'the retained placenta in the uterus' (another cause for this is 'tear in vaginal wall').
Then he informed me about the risk. He said I may bleed out and I may need blood transfusion. After all the explanation , he asked me to sign the consent form. I nodded and signed, but my mind was only thinking about my hubby and the kids (wah!! dah plural dah...). I really wished he was there, but I know right at that moment, he's asleep at home..
The procedure took almost 2 hours - I was in at 3.30am and out the OT at 5++am. Only at 6++am, I was send back to my bed. I was so tired, sleepy, very thirsty, and still feel numb from my waist down, but I managed to reached my phone & call my hubby. He was already awake, but still very sleepy. So can you imagine his surprise when I told him I have already delivered. Then I started to cry when I told him I just came back from the OT and about the complication. So he rushed to the hospital.
I was very glad when I saw my hubby. And I can see that he was worried, keep asking me if I'm OK, and he's sorry that he was not there. Then before he left (because he brought Iman, yg tiba-tiba terbgn masa Ayah nak keluar then terus nak ikut & belum mandi), I asked him to bring me to the toilet. Ni nurse tu jugak yg tanya dah kencing ke belom. Bile ckp belum, then dia suruh pegi toilet and pee...!
As I was trying to sit and stand, I blacked out and luckily fell on my bed! Then I found out that I was not suppose to move, I have to lie flat on bed for at least 6 hours! And no one informed me about that! Kecoh jugak la time tu, nasib baik ramai nurse & ada sorang doktor pelatih tgh buat report...
So when my doctor came to check on me, kena marah la nurse-nurse kat situ when I informed that no one tell me not to move. Then he told me that I lost about 1 litre of blood during the procedure and I will need blood transfusion. He said, they'll put me on IV and will be given 2 pints of blood that day. And I will need to stay at least another day, so they can monitor me after the transfusion.
Izz was only send to me at 9am, and hubby only saw her when he came later in the afternoon.
I was discharged the next day (Monday), but it felt like I've been there forever! So before I left my doctor give me lecture on my complication and what I should do next. He advised me not to get pregnant for the next 2-3 years, because there might be risks that I'll get the complication again.
I was OK with that, and hubby too. We have a boy & a girl now, no pressure to have another child. So Iman & Izz have to wait for another 3-4 years for another sibling... :)
So there's lot of medicine to take for the next month utk tambah darah, and I was asked to come to the hospital if I have health problem (pening-pening ke, pitam ke, keluar darah byk ke...)..
Alhamdulillah... I was getting better at home. Except that my legs were swollen after few days, but the doctor informed me that it's common after blood transfusion.
Now, my confinement is almost over, just few days to go.
I can't wait for my retail therapy this weekend..
I can't wait to eat out all my favorite food..
and owh... I can't wait especially the spa treatment my hubby promised me!
p/s: dear hubby, I think it's time to change the blog banner..
The contraction started about a week before the birth, - on my 38th week, and it always happened on midnight. And every time, I'll call my hubby and we started to debate whether he should come or not. But when the pain become unbearable for the 2nd time that week, we decided that he should.
So on Thursday (4 Feb 10), my hubby took emergency leave and came to Kuching on the first flight that morning. But, nothing happened on that day or the day after, and again we were in dilemma - whether he should go back to JB or stay until my due date. I wanted him to stay, but then I have another 2 weeks to go and that means he have to take a very long leave.
The main reason for the dilemma: it was near Chinese New Year holiday, and there's no flight out from JB to Kuching from 10th-13th Feb. So, if I'm in labor within those dates, he'll miss the birth of our baby. But then, at the end, we decided for him to back to JB on Sunday (7 Feb) and we're just hoping that baby can wait for Ayah to come again on the 14th.
Then on early Saturday morning (6th Feb), the contraction started again. Hubby wanted me to the hospital, but I refuse - it's not the time yet...
But in the afternoon, I noticed there were bloody show and hubby insisted that I go to the hospital. After the check-up, I was already dilating 2cm, but the doctor concerned that time was my BP- it was quite high. So I was send to the ward, but the contraction stopped. I asked my hubby to go home because I knew Iman will be looking for him - and I don't want Iman to stay at the hospital.
And on midnight, the contraction started again. At 1.30++am, it became very painful, but still only 3cm. So the nurses refused to send me to the labor room, they said, not yet. Called my hubby, he asked if he should come, but I told him to come tomorrow morning. Then at 2++am, the contraction became stronger and I noticed there's blood on my bed. I asked to be checked again. And to my surprise (and the nurses too..), I was fully dilated!!
Immediately, they send me to the labor room, which was one floor below. They were running while pushing the bed and told me not to push and keep breathing (easy for them to say...!). As I reached the labor ward, the doctor told me to wait first, while they prepared the room (again... easy for them to say!!). They changed my cloth (sempat lagi tu... dan sakit sangat nih!!). And as the doctor said "Okey, now you can p...", I was already pushing!!
First push.. "Try again.."
Second push, my water broke..
Third push.. "Another try..."
Fourth push... and little Izz was born at 2.36am, 7th February 2010 (and she was little, only 2.3kg).
All of this happened in less than 30 minute.. and no episiotomy needed!
The sad part was, hubby was not there to witness it.
He didn't even know I was in labor. They send me to the labor room in a hurry, I did not have the chance to call him!
Then, after everything was settled, the doctor began to deliver the placenta. But after 15 minutes, I heard him said to the midwife (whose busy writing all the form etc...), " I think her placenta is still in there. The umbilical cord snapped..."
I did not think it was serious. Not until after himself, the midwife and the supervising OB/GYN failed to take the placenta out, and when I heard they decided to bring me to the OT.
So in less than an hour, I was already in the OT. The doctor came to inform me about the procedure- I'll be given anesthetic in my spine to numb the lower part of my body. Then they'll try to pull the placenta out - or in other word, they'll put their hand in my uterus & korek placenta (uri) tu keluar- I don't even want to think about it!!
I have what they call 'Primary post partum haemorrage' (meaning excessive bleeding within 24 hours post delivery - or tumpah darah in Malay). The cause was 'the retained placenta in the uterus' (another cause for this is 'tear in vaginal wall').
Then he informed me about the risk. He said I may bleed out and I may need blood transfusion. After all the explanation , he asked me to sign the consent form. I nodded and signed, but my mind was only thinking about my hubby and the kids (wah!! dah plural dah...). I really wished he was there, but I know right at that moment, he's asleep at home..
The procedure took almost 2 hours - I was in at 3.30am and out the OT at 5++am. Only at 6++am, I was send back to my bed. I was so tired, sleepy, very thirsty, and still feel numb from my waist down, but I managed to reached my phone & call my hubby. He was already awake, but still very sleepy. So can you imagine his surprise when I told him I have already delivered. Then I started to cry when I told him I just came back from the OT and about the complication. So he rushed to the hospital.
I was very glad when I saw my hubby. And I can see that he was worried, keep asking me if I'm OK, and he's sorry that he was not there. Then before he left (because he brought Iman, yg tiba-tiba terbgn masa Ayah nak keluar then terus nak ikut & belum mandi), I asked him to bring me to the toilet. Ni nurse tu jugak yg tanya dah kencing ke belom. Bile ckp belum, then dia suruh pegi toilet and pee...!
As I was trying to sit and stand, I blacked out and luckily fell on my bed! Then I found out that I was not suppose to move, I have to lie flat on bed for at least 6 hours! And no one informed me about that! Kecoh jugak la time tu, nasib baik ramai nurse & ada sorang doktor pelatih tgh buat report...
So when my doctor came to check on me, kena marah la nurse-nurse kat situ when I informed that no one tell me not to move. Then he told me that I lost about 1 litre of blood during the procedure and I will need blood transfusion. He said, they'll put me on IV and will be given 2 pints of blood that day. And I will need to stay at least another day, so they can monitor me after the transfusion.
Izz was only send to me at 9am, and hubby only saw her when he came later in the afternoon.
I was discharged the next day (Monday), but it felt like I've been there forever! So before I left my doctor give me lecture on my complication and what I should do next. He advised me not to get pregnant for the next 2-3 years, because there might be risks that I'll get the complication again.
I was OK with that, and hubby too. We have a boy & a girl now, no pressure to have another child. So Iman & Izz have to wait for another 3-4 years for another sibling... :)
So there's lot of medicine to take for the next month utk tambah darah, and I was asked to come to the hospital if I have health problem (pening-pening ke, pitam ke, keluar darah byk ke...)..
Alhamdulillah... I was getting better at home. Except that my legs were swollen after few days, but the doctor informed me that it's common after blood transfusion.
Now, my confinement is almost over, just few days to go.
I can't wait for my retail therapy this weekend..
I can't wait to eat out all my favorite food..
and owh... I can't wait especially the spa treatment my hubby promised me!
p/s: dear hubby, I think it's time to change the blog banner..
3 comments:
terharu baca kisah ni, besarnya pengorbanan seorang ibu dan isteri..terigt satu kes yang sama mcm ni, tp berakhir dgn tragis..
nnt mesti bg Izz baca ni..:D
how could I not salute the courage of a mum or wife???
how could I not give a bow to you when u need to face all these by yourself???
How could I not give you a respect when you can hold this family bond tight when you are in long distance with the love ones for years???
Sharin, you indeed my idol now!!!
yantie & nana..
thanks for the comments.. Ni baru 2 je kan, bayangkan mak-mak kite yg lahirkan ramai anak..
Lepas lahirkan Izz, hubby plak yg sibuk nak stop, cukup dah 2 ni je.. Dia kesian bila dgr kena korek.. dan ngk kite kena handle kerenah 2 budak bila dia balik JB... :)
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